Category Archives: Steve’s Rebuilding Experience

Divorce: Are you the dumper or dumpee?

Have you heard the terms dumper and dumpee before? If you’ve experienced the end of a love relationship you know the definition of these words. Typically, there is one person who is more responsible for deciding that a relationship should end. That person is the dumper. Most dumpers feel guilty for hurting his or her partner. […]

Launch into the future with divorce anger

The anger I experience along with my grief shows me that my life matters. I will use this energy to launch into the future.This meditation was adapted from Will Limon’s Beginning Again book. Visit Angry? Find out by taking the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale at

Express your anger about your divorce

Give yourself permission to get in touch with and express your anger. It’s the healthy thing to do. Find constructive ways to deal with this red-hot emotion. Write, draw, punch a pillow or find the humor in the situation causing you to feel this way. Talk to a friend, take a walk–just do something! Still angry […]

Even though I’m divorced, I’ll always have myself

Regardless of my desire to have a lasting love relationship with someone else, I understand that there are no guarantees. However, I am certain about the love relationship I have with myself. I commit to exploring my unique individuality and to knowing the depths of my feelings. I honor that my needs and desires are […]

Lessons to be learned from loneliness

Here are two lessons to be learned from being alone. First, solitude can help me learn who I am. I can use these times to feel all there is to feel inside me with being distracted. The second lesson is that I understand my need for intimacy with other people since loneliness is really a […]

Talking with a life-line friend is an effective way to deal with divorce anger

According to Bruce Fisher, one of the easiest and most effective ways to deal with anger is to simply call a friend. All you need to say is, “I’m feeling angry toward my former spouse and need to talk.” Express to your friend how emotional you are and clue her in that you may not […]

Why men resist grief after divorce

In the past 30 years, taboos have relaxed about what is acceptable for a woman to express about her inner life. Not so with men. Men have resisted their grief because it has made them feel fragile, unstable, and out of control. They have feared that their symptoms were pathological, when, indeed, they are to […]

Grief and divorce

 By Sherry Russell A rabid animal will inject teeth marks on everything in its path except itself. Unfortunately, divorce seems to infect one spouse or both with the rabies. This aggressive behavior hurts other people including those not in the direct path of the fury. The open ferociousness further damages an already broken relationship. Some […]

Reinvent yourself after divorce

Through the divorce experience you’ve probably learned more about yourself than you’ve ever imaged possible. Life’s challenges, changes, and difficulties brings growth and a depth of self awareness that may not have been evident before. Reinvent the possibilities of what you can do and become now that you’ve made the discovery. Visit to take the […]

Divorce: Dr. Bruce Fisher knows exactly what I’ve been feeling

Internationally renowned divorce therapist Bruce Fisher and his 700,000-copy bestselling guide, Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, have made the long and difficult process of divorce recovery a lot easier. Fisher’s “divorce process rebuilding blocks” offer a proven, supportive nineteen-step process for putting one’s life back together after divorce. Built on more than two decades of […]