Category Archives: Counseling

How to delay divorce until the economy gets better

 Take the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale at  By Kathryn Vercillo, The bad economy is putting a big strain on marriages. Many people want to get divorced. However, now could be the worst time to get a divorce. Not only is divorce expensive but it’s also not smart to make such an important decision during […]

The best relationship advice I ever got

 Take the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale at By Sara Anderson No doubt, there are days when you feel as though you deserve the “Best Partner in the World” award: You make sure dates with your mate stay fun, you settle arguments with amazing grace and you don’t always go into whining mode when you […]

What is true love?

True love is not only hard to find, it’s also hard to tolerate. Such an idea may seem counterintuitive, but if you ponder it long enough to really get it, it could change the way you think about love. All of us have been wounded in some way, either by early love relationships or later […]

How divorce affects the personality of children

Divorce can have both immediate and long-lasting effects on the personality of children. It is unfortunate, but it is true: when a couple is going through a divorce, the children are often the ones most affected, and are often the ones that are given the least amount of attention. Children can be severely traumatized by […]

Life after divorce

By Dr. Phil McGraw Divorce is a major life change that can leave a person reeling. Suddenly being on your own to deal with issues such as money, children, career changes and downsizing the family home can seem overwhelming. Dr. Phil and Libby Gill, author of the book Traveling Hopefully: How to Lose Your Family […]

How to forgive and let go of your hurt

By Neil Rosenthal Forgiveness is a choice, it is not an emotion. You are not going to feel like it, but you can do it. Apparently, nobody is born with a lot of talent for forgiving. If you do not forgive those who have hurt you, you will have a very hard time trusting other […]

Top 10 things not to do when you divorce

As anyone who’s gone through a divorce can tell you, the process is rarely easy. Tensions run high, and couples often make poor decisions in the heat of the moment. Given the mountain of financial, practical and emotional details that have to be sorted, it’s not surprising so many couples wind up making critical mistakes […]

Talking to children about divorce

Millie Ferrer and Sara McCrea2One of the hardest things for parents to talk to children about is divorce. All children feel a strong sense of loss when parents separate or divorce. Kids may rebel, misbehave, or become withdrawn when their parents divorce. Children need as much support as possible from their parents and family while […]

How to affair-proof your marriage or relationship

By Steven D. Solomon, Ph.D. and Lorie J. Teagno, Ph.D. In our book and our work with clients we teach specific tools that everyone can use to affair-proof their relationship. We teach that there are Three Intimacies: Self Intimacy, Conflict Intimacy and Affection Intimacy. These are the mortar, building blocks and façade of any relationship. […]

Overcoming Depression after a Divorce

If your wife comes home from work one night and tells you she’s met somebody else, she no longer loves you, she wants a divorce as soon as possible, and there’s a moving truck waiting outside to take half of your furniture to her new apartment, you’re bound to be more than a little shaken […]