You have fallen in love with someone and you imagine living with this person the rest of your life. You start to experience their little quirks but you assume this is to be expected. Maybe if you act differently, things will get better. Nobody is perfect, right?
You continue on in this relationship, even though these quirks start to increase in size and frequency. Unfortunately, it happens so gradually that you do not realize what is happening until it is too late. Children are involved, which makes you determined to make things work.
Eventually, you have become so emotionally and physically exhausted by their treatment of you, that you are no longer attractive to them. They may have started having affairs, which of course will be your fault. They eventually decided to end the marriage.
What you do not know is that they have been planning their departure for a long time, mentally, legally and financially. When they make the official announcement of no longer wanting to be married, you are devastated. You are basically a quivering mass of raw meat, with no ability to function.
This type of person is known as a narcissist. Unfortunately, this personality disorder is becoming more and more common.
When divorcing a narcissist, you are in for the worst battle of your life. It is important that you have a large support group to help you. If their family members are supportive of your plight, this helps. Yet, keep in mind, they may understandably change sides.
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